My husband is longing to work abroad since he cannot find a job here in the country. A pastor that he knew refer him to an agency who sends people in Malaysia, Singapore, Middle East etc. It is called First Asian Career Solutions Inc. First he tried to apply for a factory worker in Malaysia but then he was told that building maintenance in Oman gives higher salary. He selected the one in Oman then. He already have taken medical exam and now is waiting for the employer to come to have interview. I don't feel happy thinking of him leaving us but thinking the future of our two kids I don't know if I can provide everything. If only we have a little money to start a small business I would prefer that rather him leaving the three of us. I don't how we would survive. I know we will because there are lots of families here being left by their father to work overseas. It will be hard but I need to be strong for my little angels. Lord please guide us on the right path.
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It's really amazing. I can't imagine how time flies away very quickly. I still remember our wedding day, when we move to Pasig to live on our own, when I first got pregnant, days where we are fighting, movie dates, family reunion and different special occasions, first time David went to school etc. We've been through a lot and I know we will go through a lot more. 
We had a simple dinner at Gerry's Grill in Alabang Town Center to celebrate.Thank you Lord for my family!
A friend of mine who is about to get married send me some link on different tips to a happy marriage. I would like to share these 48 tips. Me and my husband are now on our 5th year of marriage and I find these tips really helpful.
1. Start each day with a kiss
2. Wear your wedding ring at all times
3. Date once a week
4. Accept difference
5. Be polite
6. Be gentle
7. Give gifts
8. Smile often
9. Touch
10. Talk about dreams
11. Select a song that can be "our song"
12. Give back rubs
13. Laugh together
14. Send a card for no reason
15. Listen
16. Do what the other person wants before he or she asks
17. Encourage
18. Do it his or her way
19. Know his/her needs
20. Compliment twice a day
21. Fix the other person's breakfast
22. Call during the day
23. Slow down
24. Cuddle
25. Ask for each other's opinion
26. Show respect
27. Welcome the other person home
28. Look your best
29. Wink at each other
30. Celebrate birthdays in a big way
31. Apologize
32. Forgive
33. Setup a romantic getaway
34. Ask, "what can i do to make you happier?"
35. Be positive
36. Be kind
37. Be vulnerable
38. Respond quickly to the other person's request
39. Talk about your love
40. Treat each others friends and relatives with courtesy
41. Send flowers every valentines day and anniversary
42. Admit when wrong
43. Be sensitive to each other sexual desires
44. Pray for each other daily
45. Watch sunset together
46. Say "I love you" frequently
47. End the day with a hug
48. Seek outside help when needed
Yesterday the boys inside our shuttle are talking about womanizing. Our company provides a service which is a van that drops us to a different location. It is "boys talk" so its about girls, their past experiences with them, wild dreams, crushes, their type, etc. Someone even mention that they are just looking for girls whom they can have sex but not a commitment. They say it is hard when the girl falls for you because it is hard to leave the relationship. Imagine most of these guys are married. I wonder if all boys are really like that because as far as I know my husband is not a womanizer. I guess if he mingled with this type of guys he can easily be tempted because it is a guy instinct. Just like what they said it is easier to avoid sin than to get out of it.
When I got home I saw my husband washing the laundry. Seeing him doing it is a usual scene. I don't know what came in me but all of the sudden I feel bad. Its a combination of both pain and sadness. I started to feel that some people might be saying bad things about him. For about 5 years now it is only me who is working and he is the one taking care of our children. He also do most of the household chores which I also try to help. Instead of going to the computer which what I usually do after work. I started to cook food, wash the dishes and clean baby bottles. I also feed our two kids and prepared David to school. I got really tired and the sadness that I have was replaced with irritation. I easily get irritated to David's clumsiness but I am trying to control my temper because I know that I can easily get mad. Anyway when David went to school I was able to do my computer stuff and let our little girl go to sleep. I also fall asleep afterwards.
Before I left going back to work I saw my husband hunting for a job again abroad. The other night the agency where he applied before send him a message that he can now process his visa. I told him not to go because of the very low salary. I don't want him to leave not because of the salary really but because I want him to be with us. I am used to having him around and also I know it would be happier if we are together as a family. I am reading a lot of articles about OFW's sharing their experiences, how sad their life is living away from their family. I hope and pray that either he find a job here in the country or better we put up a small business.
I love you Robin!
My husband is having a hard time finding a job here in the Philippines. He is jobless for so many years and is already feeling useless. I don't judge him that way. He may not be our provider but he is a good husband and father to us. He take good care of our kids and me and do some household chores. I know not all man can do that, and I am proud of him. He tried several times applying abroad. Before I asked him not to go because the offer is too small. Now he is willing to grab it. He said better than nothing. He was given an offer in Kuwait as an office boy and was given an offer of 60KD. I think it is about P10k in peso. Free lodging and food is included. Someone told him that he may not be able to eat the free food but he doesn't need to worry because the food there is very affordable. Later today he will have his first medical examination. If I will be asked I don't want him to go. Well maybe it is time for me to be stronger and be able to stand alone without him beside me. I always relax because I know he is just beside me to do the things I cannot or don't want to do. But if he leaves I need to be very flexible and strong. I hope we are making the right decision.
I've read this story before but still it touches my heart when I read it again. This was emailed to us by one of our Team Leader at work. Read the story and learn from it.
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My husband is an engineer by profession. I love him for his steady nature
and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.
3 years of courtship and now 2 years in marriage, I would have to admit
that I'm getting tired of it. The reasons for loving him before have now
transformed into the cause of all my restlessness. I am a sentimental
woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my
feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments like a little girl yearning for
candy.
My husband is my complete opposite. His lack of sensitivity and inability
to bring romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about
love.
One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision -- that I wanted a
divorce.
"Why?" he asked, shocked.
"I am tired; there are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered.
He kept silent the whole night, seeming to be in deep thought, with a
lighted cigarette in his hands at all times. My feeling of disappointment
only increased. Here was a man who couldn't even express his predicament.
What else can I hope from him?
Then finally he asked me, "What can I do to change your mind?"
Somebody said it right; it's hard to change a person's personality and I
guess I started losing faith in him.
Looking deep into his eyes, I slowly answered, "Here is the question. If
you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind. Let's say, I
want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff and we both are sure
that picking that flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?"
He answered, "I will give you your answer tomorrow..."
My hopes just sank by listening to his response.
I woke up the next morning to find him gone and saw a piece of paper with
his scratchy hand writing, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table
near the front door, that went...
"My dear, I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to
explain the reasons further..."
The first line was already breaking my heart but I continued reading.
"When you use the computer, you always mess up the software programs and
you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can
help to restore the programs."
You always leave the house key behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush
home to open the door for you.
You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save
my eyes to show you the way.
You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every
month; I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your
tummy.\
You like to stay indoors and I worry that you will be infected by
infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to
cure your boredom.
You always stare at the computer and that you will do nothing good for
your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to
clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs, so I can
hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine
and the beautiful sand and tell you the color of flowers, just like the
color of the glow on your young face.
Thus my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more
than I do, I could not pick that flower yet, and die."
My tears fell on the letter and blurred the ink of his handwriting and
continued reading...
"Now that you finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please
open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread
and fresh milk."
I rushed to pull open the door and saw his anxious face and his hands
clutching tightly the milk bottle and loaf of bread.
Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does and I
have decided to leave the flower alone.
That's life and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of
excitement fades away and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in
between the peace and dullness. Love shows up in all forms, even very
small and cheeky for forms. It has never been a model. Flowers and
romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the
relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands and that's
our life.
Love, not words, wins arguments. =)
I was checking facebook when I saw my sister-in-law, Rica, posted this video. I really like it and would like to share it to all couples out there.
