Mamu

1. Start each day with a kiss
2. Wear your wedding ring at all times
3. Date once a week
4. Accept difference
5. Be polite
6. Be gentle
7. Give gifts
8. Smile often
9. Touch
10. Talk about dreams
11. Select a song that can be "our song"
12. Give back rubs
13. Laugh together
14. Send a card for no reason
15. Listen
16. Do what the other person wants before he or she asks
17. Encourage
18. Do it his or her way
19. Know his/her needs
20. Compliment twice a day
21. Fix the other person's breakfast
22. Call during the day
23. Slow down
24. Cuddle
25. Ask for each other's opinion
26. Show respect
27. Welcome the other person home
28. Look your best
29. Wink at each other
30. Celebrate birthdays in a big way
31. Apologize
32. Forgive
33. Setup a romantic getaway
34. Ask, "what can i do to make you happier?"
35. Be positive
36. Be kind
37. Be vulnerable
38. Respond quickly to the other person's request
39. Talk about your love
40. Treat each others friends and relatives with courtesy
41. Send flowers every valentines day and anniversary
42. Admit when wrong
43. Be sensitive to each other sexual desires
44. Pray for each other daily
45. Watch sunset together
46. Say "I love you" frequently
47. End the day with a hug
48. Seek outside help when needed

Got this email from one of my officemate. I find it inspiring and want to share it with you.
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A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee...You will never look at a cup
of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how
things were so hard for her.  She did not know how she was going to make
it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling.  It
seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen.  She filled three pots with water
and placed each on a high fire.  Soon the pots came to boil.  In the
first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the
last she placed ground coffee beans.  She let them sit and boil; without
saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners.  She fished the
carrots out and placed them in a bowl.  She pulled the eggs out and
placed them in a bowl.  Then she ladled the coffee out and pla ced it in
a bowl.  Turning to her daughter, she asked,  "Tell me what you see."

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots.  She
did and noted that they were soft.  The mother then asked the daughter
to take an egg and break it.  After pulling off the shell, she observed
the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee.  The daughter
smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.  The daughter then asked, "What
does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same
adversity: boiling water.  Each reacted differently.
The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting.  However, after being
subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile.  Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid
interior, but after sitting thro ugh the boiling water, its inside became
hardened.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however.  After they were in the
boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter.  "When adversity knocks on your
door, how do you respond?  Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"

Think of this:  Which am I?  
Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt
and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the
heat?  Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a
financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and
stiff?  Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and
tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean?  The bean actually changes the hot water,
the very circumstance that brings the pain.  ; When the water gets hot, it
releases the fragrance and flavor.  If you are like the bean, when
things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation
around you.

When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you
elevate yourself to another level?
How do you handle adversity?
Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make
you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you
happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything;
they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.  The
brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go
forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smili ng and everyone
around you is crying.